Founding Fathers

•  OPINION JUNE 20, 2009
• Our revolutionary leaders wanted the best from their children.

by BARBARA DAFOE WHITEHEAD

Barack Obama is a doting father who says that one of the greatest pleasures of his presidency is eating dinner with his daughters on the nights when he is in town.

Some of the nation's Founding Fathers were not so lucky.  Doting dads though they were, patriotic service forced them to live apart from their families for years at a time.  Benjamin Franklin, John Adams and Thomas Jefferson, the three Founders who spent the most time abroad, missed milestone events.  Franklin was a no-show at his daughter's wedding and his wife's funeral.  Adams was in Philadelphia when his wife, Abigail, gave birth to a stillborn daughter.  While in France, Jefferson received word that his 2-year-old daughter had died of whooping cough.  The news came seven months after her funeral.

Trans-Atlantic separations proved too painful to bear.  Whenever possible, the Founders took their children with them or sent for the children once they had established a household abroad.  John Adams set off on his maiden voyage to England accompanied by his 9-year-old son, John Quincy.  On a second crossing he brought along sons John Quincy and Charles.  His teenage daughter, Abigail, arrived in France with her mother a few years later.  Benjamin Franklin's son, William, and his two grandsons, Temple Franklin and Benny Bache, were part of the Franklin overseas ménage at various times.  A new widower, Jefferson took his elder daughter, Patsy, along with him on his diplomatic mission to France and later sent for his younger daughter, Polly.

The children were not always thrilled to go.  Charles Adams sobbed inconsolably as he boarded the ship with his father.  Eight-year-old Polly begged her father to let her remain at home in Virginia with her beloved aunt: "I am very sorry you sent for me," she bravely wrote.  "I don't want to go to France." Still she went, accompanied on the journey by a 14-year-old babysitter named Sally Hemings.  Upon arrival in London, the homesick girl spent the next month in the temporary care of Abigail Adams until her father sent a French-speaking manservant to fetch her.  Abigail pointedly reminded Jefferson that the experience was traumatic for the child who, once again, was faced with separation from a mother figure and sent off to live with a father she did not know.

Nor was the arrangement a piece of cake for their fathers.  In addition to the all-consuming diplomatic responsibilities of winning allies and funders for the Revolution, these lone fathers had to raise Revolutionary Kids.  Chief among their responsibilities was securing an elite European education for their young offspring while protecting them from the temptations and dissipations of living abroad.  The Founders' children and grandchildren kept company with an aristocratic power elite, savored Continental fads and fashions, and learned to speak fluent French.

It was all too easy, their fathers worried, for the Revolutionary Kids to abandon the republican virtues of industry and frugality and, even worse, to lose their native language.  "It is a mortification to me," John Adams wrote to John Quincy, "that you write better in a foreign language than in your mother tongue."

To protect their children from corrupting influences, therefore, the Founding Fathers had to part with them again.  Franklin dispatched his 9-year-old grandson, Benny Bache, to school in Switzerland for five years.  The Adams sons attended schools in Holland.  The Jefferson daughters were placed in a convent in Paris.

Yet no matter how devoted, the Founding Fathers were not inclined, as today's parents are, to lavish their students with praise. "Good job" was not in their vocabulary.  "Take care you never spell a word wrong," Jefferson admonished his younger daughter.  "Remember too . . . not to go out without your bonnet because it will make you very ugly and then we should not love you so much."

Nor did the Founding Fathers leave it up to their children to "make good choices." Instead, they moralized endlessly on the perils of indolence, time-wasting and thriftlessness.  Jefferson reproved Patsy: "If at any moment, my dear, you catch yourself in idleness, start from it as you would from the precipice of a gulph." John Adams lectured John Quincy, hardly a slouch of a student, to "lose no Time.  There is not a moral Percept of clearer Obligation or of greater Import."

When Benny Bache asked his grandfather for a gold watch, Franklin responded tartly: "You should remember that I am at a great Expence for your education . . . and you should not tease me for things that can be of little or no Service to you."

Even the profligate Thomas Jefferson embraced the virtue of frugality.  When Patsy appealed for extra money, her father refused: "The rule I wish to see you governed by is of never buying anything which you have not money in your pocket to pay for.  Be assured that it gives much more pain to the mind to be in debt, than to do without any article whatever which we may seem to want."

Judged by today's psychological standards, these 18th century fathers sound harsh and unfeeling.  Yet to see the Founding Fathers as flesh-and-blood dads, to glimpse their struggles to rear their children at a time of grave uncertainty and peril, is to appreciate their service and sacrifice anew.  Founding a nation meant more than winning a war.  It also called upon the nation's Founders to pass on the passion for freedom, educational excellence and civic virtue to their children and grandchildren.

John Adams said it best in a letter to Abigail: "The education of our children is never out of my Mind . . .Fire them with Ambition to be useful and make them disdain to be destitute of any useful or ornamental knowledge or accomplishment.  Fix their Ambition upon great and solid objects."

Ms. Whitehead is director of the John Templeton Center for Thrift and Generosity at the Institute for American Values and co-editor of "Franklin's Thrift: The Lost History of a American Virtue," just published by Templeton Press.Printed in The Wall Street Journal, page A13 Copyright 2009 Dow Jones & Company, Inc.  All Rights Reserved - This copy is for your personal, non-commercial use only.

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